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[1175] The development brings with it that, for various reasons, traditional forms of relationship are broken up and new ones emerge. Does one not find in zis partner what a further relationship can give it can come to polyamory. This is still reinforced by the increasing individualisation and specialisation on increasing knowledge, so that more flexible forms of relationship promise more than dyads.

[1176] Whose advantage of the undivided devotion is opposite to the advantage of the more diverse being addressed in polyamory. If this form of relationship is accepted among the parties at a time, is it lived out openly and perceived as optimal, it is not to make an objection against it, since it is deliberately not led as marriage. It is important for all parties that they master the difficulties associated with polyamory.

[1177] Thus, for example, on cannot spend as much time with a partner as in the dyad. The necessary openness requires an arguing about the problems of the one partner with a further one of this. Therefore, one shares more than in the dyad, can thus win and lose more than there. Life demands higher standards of one, particularly in terms of tolerance. Only who is sufficiently developed is mature for the polyamory, wins but then all the more.

[1178] Thus, one receives of the one partner what one the other cannot give, and vice versa, positively, neutrally or negatively. Crucial is the proper weighting of the properties and facts, which in the best case happens with all parties or with professional help in difficult circumstances. One make clear again and again the own position and align it with the word of L, where prayer and meditation help.

[1179] It is an art to do justice to L, to the most important others and to oneself, as the complexity of the task can quickly ask too much of oneself if the demands are high. One will have to compromise especially on divergent interests; the more, the more there are. Here are grandness, communication skills, empathy, intelligence, creativity, fidelity, fairness and trust in demand.

[1180] Polyamory requires other models of social and financial hedge. Legally binding contracts can specify the details that have to be considered. The legislator has to account for this form of relationship separately by setting adequate legal framework conditions. For example, among children the predominant reference persons play a greater role than their own parents.

[1181] If the polyamory is (partially) dissolved, the wishes for a stay of the children affected by a separation are to take development compatibly into account and they are, after a consultation of the parties - before court or so - to entrust to the care of the best suitable educators. At this, the personal relations of the parties must be analysed and evaluated in detail by qualified experts.

[1182] It is to aim at a result, in that individual and overall utilities are optimised, measured against the circumstances. Equally cautiously the legal representatives of a child are to be determined. These may be, beside or instead of the parents, other persons of the permanent environment of a child. Ultimately, it depends on the experience and expertise of the judging person how ze what decides for the good of all.

[1183] The form of relationship polyamory is to convey, equal before the law, beside others, such as marriage and dyadic life partnership. Discriminations at third hand are to meet head-on by clarifying rejection. From polyamory may result no disproportionate disadvantages of social and financial kind with respect to other forms of relationship. Legislation and jurisdiction have to guarantee this.

[1184] The more complex the world becomes, the less commonalities can serve as points of contact. However, these are crucial for guaranteeing the stability of a form of relationship. Everybody should therefore see to it that zis development still facilitates as many commonalities as possible, for example, in the basic things. A broad general education creates, therefore, for everybody the best conditions.

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